Our second term, I know, right?, seems like a simple statement. The words I know are the subject and verb. The word right? is a kind of tag question – a word that is connected to the expression.

But I know, right?, like lol, has a much more interesting story than you might expect.

Important use in communication

John McWhorter is an expert on languages. In the book Words on the Move, he notes that lol serves an important purpose in written communication: “easing.”

By easing, McWhorter means actions that people do to show they are feeling at ease or trying to be nice. For example, in real life, people often laugh or smile. They do this to show they are at ease and that the situation is not too serious.

Lol, McWhorter says, serves that same purpose in written communication.

English speakers use lol at the beginning, middle or end of a sentence. In many cases, they use lol to soften language or bad news.

Here is an example. A person borrowed a friend’s car to run a brief errand.

The borrower wrote the friend the following text message:

Lol your car started to overheat just as I pulled into the driveway.

In this case, the person writing the text “eases” the news of the car overheating by starting the sentence with lol.

The writer also could have written the statement with lol at the end of the sentence, as in:

Your car started to overheat just as I pulled into the driveway lol

A person might use lol in the middle of a statement as in:

Bad news lol your car started to overheat!

In any case, the basic idea is that lol helps make language gentler. It means far more than “laughing out loud.” In fact, it does not really relate to laughing at all.

“Anyone who used LOL to signal actual laughter would now be misunderstood: it would be, quite simply, a mistake,” McWhorter writes.

In writing, other acronyms have taken the place of lol to show actual laughter.

Agreement

Our second expression today, I know, right?, is like lol. It also serves the purpose of “easing.”

But, as McWhorter notes, the words I know, right? show agreement in an indirect way. Instead of writing “I agree” or “I know” many times on internet forums or texts, many people use I know, right?

It has a casual, pleasant sound. It is a nice way to agree with someone.

So, you might see something like the following exchange on an internet discussion board:

Wow! That cat looks like Simba from the Lion King!

I know, right? It’s incredible!

Imagine a change in the wording, as in:

Wow! That cat looks like Simba from the Lion King!

I know.

Such a statement is more abrupt, and far less conversational. The exchange between the two writers probably would not continue for much longer!

Closing thoughts

The point of our report today was to show you how English speakers use some terms or expressions that have more meaning than you might expect.

Understanding details like these will help you when you communicate or read in casual situations.

And some of the details we talked about – the placement of lol for example - are true of other kinds of words in English. Adverbs are one example.

The next time you read internet forums or send text messages, try to find other examples of words or expressions that native speakers use.

We will be back next week with another Everyday Grammar!

Lol that was a long report.

I know, right? But hopefully it was fun and helpful for the listeners.