"The secret of getting ahead is getting
started." Mark Twain
Complete the following quotations with men or women. The first one has been done
could never invent weapons that kill, only ones that make you feel really
bad and guilty until you surrender
For , 2am is time for sleep. For
, 2am is time for a discussion
about where our relationship is going.
appreciate the importance of a 42
inch plasma screen. do not.
have no opinions about curtains.
enjoy planning a wedding.
have an ability to make
they are in charge.
On being told that someone has bought a new car
usually ask what colour it is -
ask what sort is it.
understand colour. They seem to
know what to wear all the time.
just think red is nice, pink is nice, so why not have them together?
cannot watch sports and talk to
at the same time.
Listen to check your answers.
Read the following article on the differences between men and women.
Do you think the article is biased against either men or women, or is it a
balanced view of both?
Men and Women: the differences
Have you ever heard a seemingly normal woman saying something like, ‘I
don't know what I do to turn men off. I seem to push them away. Maybe I'm
too demanding, or not demanding enough. Men are so confusing.’
And it could be that very same day that you hear a seemingly normal man,
unrelated to the first woman, complaining: ‘I don't understand women. I
must be doing something wrong. Women are so hard to understand.’
When men and women get together, there are, in effect, two worlds - his
and hers. They have different values, priorities, and habits. They play by
Scientists have come to accept that a few fundamental differences between
men and women are biological. It turns out that men's and women's brains,
for example, are not only different, but the way we use them differs too.
Women have larger connections and more frequent interaction between their
brain's left and right hemispheres. This accounts for women's ability to
have better verbal skills and intuition. Men, on the other hand, have
greater brain hemisphere separation, which explains their skills for
abstract reasoning and visual-spatial intelligence. Poet Robert Bly
describes women's brains as a ‘superhighway’ of connection while men’s
brains connections are compared to a ‘little, bending country road.’
Different habits of men and women are explained by different roles in the
process of evolution. Although life conditions have changed, both men and
women tend to follow their biological programs.
Men tend to retain a firm sense of direction - they need to hunt the
animal, catch it, and find the way home, while women have a better
peripheral vision that helps them to see what’s happening around the
house, to spot an approaching danger, to notice changes in the children’s
behaviour and appearance. Men’s brains are programmed to hunting, which
explains their narrow range of vision, while women’s brains are able to
decipher and understand a wider range of information
entering a room, men look for exits, estimating a possible threat, and
ways of escape, while women pay attention to the guests’ faces to find out
who they are and how they feel. Men are able to sort out information and
archive it in their head. Women tend to ‘rewind’ the information over and
over again. The only way to stop thinking of the problems is to talk it
over. When a woman shares her problems with a man, she is not looking for
solutions – she needs someone to listen to her.
Men prefer loud noises, hard handshakes, and red colour. They are better
at solving technical problems. Women have a sharper ear, they use more
words while talking, and are better at completing tasks independently.
Based on these biologically explained differences, some psychological
distinctions between men and women can be established:
- Men grasp a situation as a whole and think globally, while women think
locally, relying on details and nuances.
- Men are builders and creators. They take risks and experiment, while
women select the most valuable knowledge and pass it on to the next
- Men are more independent in their thoughts and actions, while women are
more willing to follow the ideas suggested by others.
- Women’s self-appraisal is lower than that of men. Women tend to
criticize themselves, while men are more satisfied with their own
- Men and women have different sources of satisfaction. For men it’s
career and prosperity, while women value family and kids.
- Men have a pronounced need to fulfil their goals, and women rank
relationships with others first.
- Men get sick twice as often as women, although women tend to be more
concerned about their health.
- Women endure pain and monotonous work better than men.
All the above gets even more confusing, if we take into account that 15 to
20% of men happen to have a female type of brains, and about 10% of women
have a male type of brains, which means that some percentage of men and
women, no matter how small it seems, are partially programmed to the
behaviour and way of thinking of the opposite gender.
‘Okay, I understand the problem’, you may be saying to yourself, but
–‘what's the solution?’ Well, that depends on whether you are a woman or a
Decide if the following statements are true or false, according to the text.
Check your answers by finding the relevant information in the text.
Women have larger brains than men. 2. Men are better at abstract reasoning.
3. Women’s brains are able to understand a wider range of
information than men. 4. Women like to talk over their problems with men because men
are good at finding solutions. 5. Men place a higher importance on relationships than women.
6. Women are more self-critical than men.
7. Women are generally healthier than men.
8. A man is more likely to put up with a boring job than a woman.
Check your answers.
Focus on language
Read the following phrasal verbs in context and match then with
the definitions. Follow the example.
Example: I seem
to push them awayto push out of the way.
1. I don't know what I do to turn men off.
2. When men and women get together 3. It turns out that men's and women's brains, for
example, are not only different,.. 4. This accounts for women's ability to have better
verbal skills and intuition. 5. The only way to stop thinking of the problems is to
talk it over. 6. women select the most valuable knowledge and pass
it on to the next generation.
a) - to happen in a particular way or to have a particular
result, especially an unexpected one b) - to discuss a problem or situation, especially before
making a decision about it c) - to explain the reason for something or the cause of
something d) - to tell someone something that someone else has told you e) - to stop someone feeling interested or excited,
especially sexually (opposite = to turn (s.b.) on.) f) – to be in each other’s company or begin a romantic
Check your answers.
Now complete the following sentences with phrasal verbs from the previous
exercise. Change the form of the verb if necessary
1. Why don’t we
for a drink after work
tomorrow? 2. That cake I made
really well. Do you want the recipe? 3. Can you your
absence from work last Friday? 4. Before I make a decision I’d like to
with my wife. 5. A lot of women say that explicit pornography actually
. 6. When you see David, could you
my message about the
meeting on Wednesday?